Learning About Love

It’s ironic that God is teaching me about His love right after my album “This is Love” came out!  I’ve been learning so much, and I can’t just keep it all to myself! 

So this past weekend (Oct 13-16, 2016) my family and I traveled around Vermont for 4 days doing 5 different events – one being opening for Chris August and Jonny Diaz on their Pieces tour at the Rocktober Fest in Burlington!  There was a song in Chris Augusts’ set that hit me hard and has been echoing in my heart since that night – it’s his latest single called “Pieces” (written by Amanda Cook).  This song talks about exactly what Gods love for us looks like, and as Chris was singing the chorus of this song – “You don’t give Your heart in pieces. You don’t hide Yourself to tease us.” – I felt the presence of God in that room so clearly.  It was like He was giving great big hugs to those who were finally, for the first time, understanding His great love for them.

Now, as we’re driving from Vermont all the way to Arizona for the Hope Fest this weekend in Prescott (Oct 22), I’m continuing in reading a book I’ve been working through by Nancy Leigh DeMoss called “Brokenness – Surrender – Holiness,” and God is continuing what I’m learning through the song about His love in this last section I read.  Here’s the part that stuck out to me the most:

“Jesus came to earth expressly to do the will of God, which required that He offer up His body as a 
sacrifice.  Never for a single moment did He ever resist the will of His Father…” 

“…’But what about Gethsemane?’ you say.  ‘Did not Jesus struggle against the will of God as He faced the cross?’  To the contrary, next to the cross itself, Gethsemane is the supreme illustration of Jesus’ surrender while here on this earth.  Shortly before going to Gethsemane to pray, Jesus predicted His imminent death.  Then He said, “Now my heart is troubled, and what shall I say? ‘Father, save me from this hour’?  No, it was for this very reason I came to this hour.  Father, glorify Your name!” (John 12:27-28 NIV)

Before He ever set foot in the garden of Gethsemane, Jesus had settled the issue; indeed, the issue had been settled before He ever set foot on this planet.  In eternity past, He had surrendered Himself to the will of God – to become the Sin-Bearer for all mankind.  When Jesus knelt in the garden and “offered up prayers and petitions with loud cried and tears to the One Who could save Him from death” (Hebrews 5:7 NIV), He was not expressing resistance to the will of God; rather He was expressing full surrender to the will of God.

The anguish the Lord Jesus experienced as He sweated drops of blood was that He Who had never once disobeyed His Father, He Who loved His Father and had been by His Father’s side for all of eternity (Proverbs 8:30), He Who delighted to do the will of His Father (Psalm 40:8), He Who “loved righteousness and hated lawlessness” (Hebrews 1:9) – was about to become sin – the very thing He knew His Father hated!…”

“…So He cried out, in effect, “O Father, my Holy Father, I’ve lived to please You.  And because I love You, if it’s possible, let this cup pass from Me so that I will not have to be sin, so that I will not have to be separated from You.” 

Did you get the impact of that?  

Here’s what I’m getting at: Jesus was in Gethsemane in anguish because He was about to become the very thing His Father hated…..because He loves us.  For God so loved the world He gave His only Son (John 3:16).  Jesus endured separation from His holy Father because He loves us so fiercely – He gave His life so that we could be with Him!

He didn’t give Himself in pieces.  He gave Himself wholly and completely on the cross.  Unashamed, unreserved, unrestrained, uncontrolled, uncontained, unconditional, overwhelming, undeserving, passionate, proud, openhanded, present, faithful, honorable, selfless and pure – those are only mere words we can attempt to use to describe the amazing love of our Lord. 

There’s another side to this lesson though.  I’m not just learning about His love, I’m also learn how to love.  How Jesus loves me, is how I’m supposed to love others (John 13:34).  So I’m supposed to love everyone unconditionally, faithfully, without strings attached, with no thought to myself, without hindrences, without excuses, wildly, passionately, without a troubled mind, without anxiety, never disengaged, always present, honoring what’s sacred, not insecure….but wholly and purely. 

Just like Jesus, we shouldn’t give our hearts to others in pieces.  

Now as most of you know, I just recently got engaged, and I’m no expert on love but I’m pretty sure you and I just learned everything we need to know about marriage!😉  God has given us the greatest example of how we’re supposed to love others by demonstrating His love for us (Romans 5:8).  And if we truly understood the gravity of this love we’re learning about, we should all be on our knees right about now.  

Gods love is passionate, fierce, self-sacrificing, and willing to do whatever it takes to pour out on us.  

You don’t have to earn that love.  He already loves you and there is nothing – not even yourself – that can separate His love from you (Romans 8:38-39).  It was one and done on the cross.  So soak it in, and go out!  Spread this love with all of the people around you.  It’s for the sinner and the saint; it’s the reason that He came!  

“We love because He first loved us.” John 4:19

In Christ, 

Skylar Kaylyn 💕

Rocktober Fest with Jonny Diaz and Chris August








“This is Love” Album Release! 

On this beautiful fall day, my third album, titled “This is Love,” released on iTunes, Amazon, Spotify, and multiple different music sites!  This album has been full of creativity, hard work and was definitely made with love!  I’m so thankful for Riley Friesen, The Hit Lab, and all my friends who helped make this happen!

I themed the album after the song called This is Love (track 3) because half of the songs are love songs I’ve written for friends, family, and from my own life as of late (because I just got engaged!), and half of the songs are about God’s love for us and our love for God.

“For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” (John 3:16) 

Our Father’s love for us is greater than we could ever understand; completely beyond our wildest imagination!  He so loved the world – equally and unconditionally – that He gave us His only Son.  He turned His face from Jesus because all the sins of the world – past, present, and future – were resting on His shoulders (Isaiah 53:5).  And you know why He did that??

Because He wants YOU.

He desires an intimate relationship with you!

He gave His Son to make a way for us broken and sinful human beings to not be separated from Him, because He knew that we could never get it right on our own.  He stepped in and dealt with our mistakes…..because He loves us.

It just blows my mind. What a loving Father.

Another cool part about this wonderful Creator, is that He gives us beautiful pictures of His love for us in our life here on earth.  He gives us sweet relationships that help us understand more and more of what real love truly is.

You can hear about my experience with this love that God gives us to share in “Every Single Day” and “Never Felt This Way Before.”  They are two songs that I wrote a couple months after I met Jason (who is now my fiancé!), and I felt God was telling me that this was the person I have been waiting for.

I had never dated, or even been able to write a love song from my own personal life!  I could write plenty of songs about other people’s love stories, but could never write down what I felt in my heart about someone I liked.  And thinking about it now…it’s because I was always confused.  There’s was nothing to write about yet, because nothing was real for me yet.

That is something that I prayed on multiple occasions, that when I found the person God wanted me to be with, He would just make it clear.  No more confusion! I had had enough of that silliness.

I can stand before you today and say that our God answers prayers, no matter how small, because God answered my prayer!  After meeting Jason on tour, the first thing I did when I got home was I wrote a song about him.  I was FINALLY able to write my own love song, and that was before I even liked him!

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:12)

God knows, my friends.

Not only does He know who you will end up with someday, He also knows what’s best for us.

In my song, “Where Your Kingdom Starts,” it explains that the reason we get so stressed out and hurt is because we for get Who is God in our lives (Ps. 46:10).  When we can finally come to the end of everything we are – our skill, talent, ability, and our strength – that’s where His kingdom begins.  He only wants you to let go and understand that we can trust Him!

There’s so much that will happen when we finally just surrender and lean on Jesus (…the Author and Perfector of our faith… Hebrews 12:2).   When we let go of our plans and desire what He wants for our lives…amazing things will happen.  We just gotta remember that we’re SO loved and we don’t have to try so hard to be everything.

Let go and let God.

In the wise words of Miss Carla in War Room, “My God is good! My God is faithful!” And don’t you forget it!

Thank you for letting me share my music and my heart with you.  You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram to keep up with my crazy life, and you can find my new album, “This is Love,” on iTunes, and many other music sites!!  Help me spread the love, and share this album with your family and friends!❤


Skylar Kaylyn

Release Day!

Tears in a Bottle

I wrote this song on Christmas Day thinking about all those who are hurting from loss or sadness. There’s so much of that going around lately, with things like the many school shootings, and I just really felt like God put it on my heart to share it with you all. Please share if you know someone who might be struggling right now. God bless❤
Psalm 34:17, 18

Tennessee Thoughts…

Hi! =) So I sent out a newsletter a couple days ago about what I’ve been up to, but I wanted to share with you a little more in depth about our trip to Tennessee, because it was such a neat experience for me.  It ended up being a week of both challenges and inspiration…there were ups and downs, highs and lows…all of which God used in my life as a growing experience.

At first, I was just so excited to be IN Nashville.  My first day was at the Get Busy conference put on by Creative Soul Records, and it was a social media/booking seminar.  Other indie artists and industry professionals were there, and my mom and I learned a ton – both that some of the things we have been working hard on were the RIGHT things to be doing, and then all about what MORE we could be doing.

Mom and me at Word Music for the Creative Soul Get Busy Conference

Mom and me at Word Music for the Creative Soul Get Busy Conference

Then over the weekend my family and I got to go to the Grand Ole Opry, which was awesome! The musicians there were so talented and so much fun to watch. =)  We also got to go to the Country Music Hall of Fame, which was my personal favorite because of all the music history, and being able to see how different things started. It was really nice to have a weekend of fun with my family in the great Music City of Nashville. =) Oh and btw, I decided that Nashville smells like California, but with BBQ sauce!😉

My family at the Grand Ole Opry

Yup – that’s my big brother Taran, my little sister Serenity and me
standing right next to Elvis! =)

The last part of the trip was spent at GMA IMMERSE, which is a conference for singers, songwriters, and musicians.  At first I was really pumped and ready to take on the week, but as the week went on I pretty much lost confidence in myself and didn’t think this music business could possibly be God’s plan for me.  I was very down, and didn’t feel good enough for the job I thought God had laid on my heart.  I wanted to give up.  But every morning they would have a little worship and a devotional time with singers or industry folks, and most of them were talking about God’s faithfulness to us where we are in our lives.  One of the things that really stuck out to me was something said by Mike Harland of LifeWay: “God will bring you to the end of your skill, because that’s where His Kingdom starts.”

As the week went by, I thought about that statement a lot.  God gives us all a gift and He wants us to use it to glorify Him, but it’s our choice what we do with it, how we use it – for His glory or not.  God wants us to trust Him and rely FULLY on His working in our lives.  Just like when Hannah in the Bible gave her son, Samuel, back to God, we need to give our gifts back to Him as well.  When we get to Heaven and God gives us our crowns, we’re not gonna keep them, we’re going to lay them right back at His feet.  God can do so much more with the gifts He gave us than we can.

I was putting all my confidence in myself and what I could do, and not in God.  By the end of the week, I came to the conclusion that God had truly brought me to the end of my skill.  He told me that by myself, I won’t ever be good enough; through my skill alone, I will fail.  It’s not a good feeling being at the end of what you feel like you can do, but I found that when you have stripped away all of your own pride, all your own talent, all the doubts and fears and lies the enemy wants to throw at us, God will show you how much more HE can do through you. =)

Through various people, God began to reveal some things to me about who I am, how He has created me, and things about my ministry.  God just kinda picked me up by the boot straps and spoke to me about every one of my doubts and fears through His Word, through people, through music….and it was a truly amazing and rejuvenating week for me.

And THEN, that’s when things started happening…like being blessed to open for Hyland and Gospel Lee two nights in a row last week, getting to open for MIKESCHAIR and Brian Weaver in a couple weeks, and more fun things on the horizon. =)  I learned a lot from Hyland and Gospel Lee, and I am really looking forward to learning more from these upcoming experiences.

Hyland - you should check out their music!

Hyland – you should check out their music!

My new friend Gospel Lee - he even rapped with me on one of my songs =)

My new friend Gospel Lee – he even rapped with me on one of my songs =)

Thank you for taking the time to listen to my heart about my last trip.  I pray you are all having a really fun and exciting summer!

Romans 8:28, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.”


Three Little Words

Hello there =) So at the church I went to on Wednesday to perform for a youth event, the youth pastor talked about something really interesting.  He said, “What are three words that you think do the most damage?”  Well…what do you think they are?  Most people that night, including me, thought for sure they were, “I hate you.”  But think about this: even if you hate someone, they’re still consuming your thoughts as much as someone you love is.  So, then what’s wrong with that?  At least they’re in your thoughts!

No….its three words that can tear you down and make you feel like life isn’t even worth living.  Ones that make you feel utterly hopeless…..

“I don’t care.”  I. Don’t. Care.  Man…..those are some powerful words.  I’ve said them, I’m sorry to say.  Be careful what you say to people because these three words can come out faster than you can think them through and once they’re out, they hurt.

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”  Ephesians 4:29-32

I challenge you to meditate on this a bit.  Chew on it and pray about it.  Are you treating people like Christ would?  Or are you showing them you don’t care?  How would YOU want to be treated?

You Belong


This is a very good question.  Everybody knows what it’s like to feel like you belong somewhere, but we also all know what it’s like to feel like we don’t belong anywhere.  Since we know what both feel like, why do we choose to tear people down instead of build them up?  Why do we choose to make them feel like they’re not smart, or not cool enough, or weird?  I know it’s hard to always build people up, especially if you’re dealing with someone who you don’t particularly like, but God calls us to love just as He does, and His love is unconditional; no strings attached.  I know this is true for boys as well, but I want to challenge us girls with this today, because we seem to try to outdo and ignore each other to make ourselves feel better.  But what do we gain from that?  Being mean doesn’t get us anywhere, and most of all, it’s of no worth in Gods sight.  Be yourself.  Don’t look around and try to be better then the next girl, just be the person God made you to be because there’s only one person who can be you, and that’s YOU! =)


John 15:5

I read this in my daily devotion this morning and thought I should share =) I really connected with what Sarah Masen had to say and the song analogy really hit home with me. I hope it blesses you too =)

When we turn on the radio or the CD player, we hear the finished product only – never a “work in progress.” We are so accustomed to hearing the final version of a composer’s work that we can easily forget the many hours (or days, or weeks, or months) of work which went into the music. Working through the creative process is a task for all those in the creative arts, whether writing a symphony or a folk song.

Sing/songwriter Sarah Masen has know many long hours of this process and testifies to it’s anguish. “I’m so afraid sometimes when I sit down and write,” she admits, “that nothing will be there, that nothing will happen, that the well will be dry. It feels like stepping into a void.”

In describing this void, Masen depicts the very nature of composition: “There’s a mystery that happens in the creative process, but I don’t know how to make that mystery happen. It always seems to happen when I’m not looking. It hits me when I’m not aware. We’re all involved somehow in Jacob’s wrestling with God, in looking for truth, in praying for it, in trying to figure out what all of this beauty is for.”

Finally Sarah Masen concluded that for the process to be blessed, both prayer and her own efforts must be involved. “As I seek to pray my way through confusion and create my way through self-doubt, I’ve found – and this is true not just of songwriting but of all life – that my efforts to do something are always met by God, but almost never in the way I thought.”

God does come to meet us and help is along our journey in life, but we need to take steps toward Him first. For truly, without Him we can do nothing.

John 15:5
“Apart from Me you can do nothing.”